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Originally Posted by crackprogram
How is this being a loser?
There is nothing wrong with falling in love [... ] I think a real 'loser' would never let themselves fall in love. I don't think I could ever live that way.
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I don't really think that is what he was referring to. Alot of guys become obsessive. Many of these guys develop a Romeo complex. Fpr example, many guys that I've known or counseled (to a minor degree) develop an obsession of an idea rather than the actual individual. And it is very hard to get over this fantasy idea. I think it's really this idea that he was referring to.
If this is the case, I would cut off the relationship the best I could and seek some form of therapy. Honestly, if you try to handle it on your own you will more than likely develop other problems. So, my personal reccommendation would be to seek legitimate medical assistance (i.e. a psychiatrist before you get someone to just talk to).
I've had a close friend and family member in the same situation. Calling her will not make it better. However, do realize this may not even be your choice. I've seen people call ex girlfriends or boyfriends because they physically and mentally were not capable of following through with the rational decision. But, like I said, GET HELP. Otherwise, you could be 30 still obsessing over the same bitch with other severe problems to accompany it. If the correct decisions are made, you will get over this issue and have a shot at a nice career and a shot at eventually finding someone decent to share you life with.