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Originally Posted by uptown
What do people do when there's a big difference in their sexual drive and their partner's ? What about timing issues ?
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Sage and Abaya said it best, but don't forget to always get rest, eat right, and exercise in addition to communicating with your SO. While the problems are probably rooted in emotions instead of the physical, it can't hurt to be ready when the time comes.
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Originally Posted by uptown
You read a lot about the partner with the lower drive and it feels like all emapathy seems to go to their side of the equation, but what about the partner with the higher desire level ? How do couples negotitate these issues in a way that doesn't leave the high drive partner feeling like a
pervert simply because they'd like more partner sex and less solo masturbation?
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There are avenues of escape from the bounds of extreme sexual frustration. It's a matter of focusing your energy to an end that's mutually benificial for you and your SO. Unfortunately, I cannot tell you that end. That is something for you and your SO to find out...which is where that communication we were talking about comes in. While mutual and equal levels of sexual drive may not be in play, there is still the love and empathy.
There are some times that I really don't feel like pulling an all nighter. It has less to do with sexual drive and more to do with stress, but it's there none the less. I am teaching myself to deal with the stress, but it's a long and arduous process. Between now and when I am able to put work and finances and such out of my mind completly, I am not 100% ready 100% of the time. It's not that I don't find my wife atteractive. In fact, she is by far the sexist women I've ever met. I make sure that she knows that, too (more communication). I simply am not always in the mood. If, however, I were to notice that I am rarely in the mood, I'd have to check my pulse. After that, it might be time to talk to someone.