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Hektore · 03-20-2006, 12:24 PM

Alright TFPers I know I don’t really post much on here but I do try to make them count, so I’m hoping you can all help me out with some advice here. Every other time I’ve ever read the advice offered to someone else it’s been impartial and far from sugar-coated. I’m looking for honesty, even a ‘get over yourself, there are people with real problems’ if that’s what you think I need.

Here is the situation. I’m 20,(21 shortly), I’m in my junior year at a good college as a pre-med. My grades have been sliding and my cumulative has dropped from a 3.4 to a 2.7. I rarely attend class, if I do I don’t do the work and my grades reflect that(as they should). The problem is I can’t find a reason to get back into things. I haven’t a clue whether or not I want to be a doctor of any sort anymore and I don’t even really think I have the grades to be if I wanted to. I feel like I got on this conveyer belt that seemed nice at the time without ever really considering if it’s what I wanted. Ever since then I’ve just been going through the motions and I just don’t have a clue where I’m going or what I’m doing and I want some time to get it figured out.

The problem is I have a good bit out in loans and if I were to drop out several things would happen. First and foremost I’d be having to find a new place to live in a hurry. My parents have made if very clear they’ll help me as long as I’m in school but if I screw it up: I’m on my own, as in all my stuff on the lawn that day(Which is fine, I mean why should they have to help me at all, I’m 20 right). Along with that I would have to start paying on my loans, which would include getting a job and being stuck paying off my large amount of debt. Basically, if I quit now it is going to become very unlikely that I can ever come back. On the other side, I don’t see the point in staying if I’m not going to get anything out of it anyway. I feel like I already screwed it up and should just cut my losses and head out. I don’t see the point in digging myself a deeper hole to climb out of.

Any advice?

03-20-2006, 12:24 PM	#1 (permalink)
Hektore Junkie Location: Greater Harrisburg Area	Thinking about dropping out. Alright TFPers I know I don’t really post much on here but I do try to make them count, so I’m hoping you can all help me out with some advice here. Every other time I’ve ever read the advice offered to someone else it’s been impartial and far from sugar-coated. I’m looking for honesty, even a ‘get over yourself, there are people with real problems’ if that’s what you think I need. Here is the situation. I’m 20,(21 shortly), I’m in my junior year at a good college as a pre-med. My grades have been sliding and my cumulative has dropped from a 3.4 to a 2.7. I rarely attend class, if I do I don’t do the work and my grades reflect that(as they should). The problem is I can’t find a reason to get back into things. I haven’t a clue whether or not I want to be a doctor of any sort anymore and I don’t even really think I have the grades to be if I wanted to. I feel like I got on this conveyer belt that seemed nice at the time without ever really considering if it’s what I wanted. Ever since then I’ve just been going through the motions and I just don’t have a clue where I’m going or what I’m doing and I want some time to get it figured out. The problem is I have a good bit out in loans and if I were to drop out several things would happen. First and foremost I’d be having to find a new place to live in a hurry. My parents have made if very clear they’ll help me as long as I’m in school but if I screw it up: I’m on my own, as in all my stuff on the lawn that day(Which is fine, I mean why should they have to help me at all, I’m 20 right). Along with that I would have to start paying on my loans, which would include getting a job and being stuck paying off my large amount of debt. Basically, if I quit now it is going to become very unlikely that I can ever come back. On the other side, I don’t see the point in staying if I’m not going to get anything out of it anyway. I feel like I already screwed it up and should just cut my losses and head out. I don’t see the point in digging myself a deeper hole to climb out of. Any advice? __________________ The advantage law is the best law in rugby, because it lets you ignore all the others for the good of the game.