A disaster is brewing here...
Your ex is still in love with you and you are now dating his best friend. I'll give you the benefit of the doubt and assume you didn't originally start dating the friend out of spite for your ex. Regardless, you probably should have known better. But thats spilled milk now. Your in an unstable situation and need to be very concious and careful about what happens.
The only possible reason I can imagine why your current bf would want you to 'resolve things' with your ex/his friend is because either hes socially dumb enough to not see two inches in front of the present with regards to the consequences, or he's doing some weird fruedian thing trying to screw the relationship up.
Can you in your wildest dreams imagine hanging out with the two of them, having completely neutral feelings about your ex, and your ex having completely neutral feelings about you, your bf not suspicious or jealous? No matter what you and your ex feel it is NOT neutral and never will be. If your bf honestly has such a blind intuition about the impending problems this will cause, it is your responsibility to say "NO this is a bad idea".
STAY THE HELL AWAY FROM YOUR EX.
All this takes is one party where your bf steps off and you and your ex are tipsy. You feel "vulnerable". He's turned on by your vulnerability and flirtyness, (seeing it as his duty as a man to make a move) makes a move on you (fuck his friend, your hot and he wants you back). And you are of course taken back emotionally and overwhelmed, "I dont know what im feeling...I'm emotional and confused". BAM the whole thing is ruined. You feel guilty, you feel confused, your bf feels betrayed and hates his friend, maybe even hates you, you dont know who you want, but it might not even matter because the situation just got so complicated all three of you might have to go seperate ways.
It might not happen exactly like that, but you need to realize that your walking a tightrope. You need to let your bf know that he is pushing you onto this tightrope.
If you beleive that you can be 'ok' with your ex again without falling for him again, I think your wrong. But even you can, he can't. The BEST possible outcome is that your ex will be so torn up by the situation that their freindship will be destroyed.
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Last edited by xim; 03-19-2006 at 10:26 PM..
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