I don't really post here that often... but my friend said you guys would be able to help!
Bit of background first: I live in Australia, im 18.... she is 18 (a few months younger)... I am doing an apprenticeship, she is in uni... needless to say we don’t see each other that often... but I still call her whenever I feel like talking and we try to catch up as much as possible.
Ok... at a party tonight, me having a good time, gf looking not so happy... my first reaction is that she has been working a lot and would be feeling down because she has to work tomorrow, but no.... after a few minutes of talking to her I realise she is very upset, I’m thinking it has nothing to do with me, because even though we have both been working a lot we still have been regularly talking and catching up.
I was wrong... it turns out she thinks we are drifting apart, not spending enough time together... I basically pore my heart out, I cant even repeat what I said because it came from the deepest regions of my heart, and my true emotions came out... we have been going out for nearly 2 years so one of the things I said was "if I’ve been with you this long, what makes you think I don’t want to continue our relationship?" I’ve even thought about future plans to go travelling in like 3 years and still considering what would happen to us.
Then something she says that totally befuddled me... I said, "I wish we had this conversation at a better time" because it was totally ruining my awesome night (of which I have very few these days) and then she said, "do you want me to plan our fights??"
BAM... there is me thinking WHAT THE FUCK??? I just poured my heart out to you saying how much I’ve enjoyed being with you and will enjoy being with you and you call this a FIGHT???
That is about the time she walked out of the room... as I sit here typing this 2 hours later and I am still thinking "what the fuck?"
Any advice or recommendations on this kind of situation??