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Call me a cynic, but I'm amazed at people who seriously think about settling down with the first real person they date. Is she your first serious girlfriend? It's just so many of my friends who hooked up with their first serious partner ..... well let's just say their footloose and fancy free now. I really believe you need time to grow by yourself and I think it's really important to experience other people. Don't get me wrong. I don't think you should go shag anything that crosses your path, I just know for myself, each person I've ever been with intimately (and I'm not just meaning sexually) has made a huge impact on the person I've become.
Tommy, people grow and change and sometimes grow apart - especially at your age. I don't think you'd be doing yourself or 'Raine' any favours by continuing on. And to be honest, people don't stray, unless something's wrong or unfulfilled with their current situation. You said it yourself, the concert, just going out. It's the simple things that are really important - the sex is second to that. If you can't enjoy the simple things with someone, it's time to part ways. On the flip side though, if you can see a future (which you said you can't) then perhaps it's just a rut, which needs working through.
Either way, it's not a nice situation to be in and I really feel for you. Good on you for wanting to upfront with her in the sense that you want to tell her how you feel and what you've done. I don't think you can be too hard on yourself if that's the way. Everyone you date and or marry, no matter the time together - doesn't mean their the one for you in the long run. Good Luck!
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ciao bella!
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