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Originally Posted by FallenAvatar
I figured that this would be the answer I received and was pretty sure that it was the best way to approach this. I'm trying not to rush things. We both come from different relationship backgrounds and I guess neither of us are used to how this one is going. Guess I really do just have to breathe some more..
And Ben, the liquor idea is funny.. but I'll choose your other option.
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Part of it is the "baggage" issue. Everybody has baggage -- self-fulfilling expectations -- about how relationships should go, based on all their _past_ relationships. But everybody's baggage is different. You think relationships are A, but in her experience they're B. And the emotional expectations -- including things to beware of -- are different for you than for her.
So I agree with everybody else. Start slow and start fresh. You should both forget everything you "know" about relationships and build something new that works for both of you.