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Old 03-02-2006, 11:56 PM   #45 (permalink)
Bryndian_Dhai
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Originally Posted by Ustwo
I have a lot of experiance with bi women and there are several kinds.

#1 Bi-curious: These are girls who may have thought about other girls, but are too shy to initate it on their own. They will often recieve sex from a female but not return the favor.

#2 Socially bi: They will be bi with the 'right' woman, aka a close friend. They don't go looking for women to have sex with.

#3 True Bi: man, woman, they don't care, they just want sex and how they approach that will be personality driven, though they do seem 'faster' with women.

#4 Bi-furious: These are basically married lesbians. They are very aggressive with each other and the mans just sorta there.

I sort of wonder if part of this aggresiveness you speak of is due to the nature of a homosexual realtionship vrs a heterosexual one. A heterosexual relationship has a lot more 'issues' than a homosexual one so you would go slower than with a homosexual relationship.

Actually, this isn't too far off. There is a school of thought, based on Kinsey's research, that I personally like a great deal, and explains a lot about the behaviour of some bisexual women.

0 Exclusively heterosexual: Capable of only physical and emotional attachments with people of the opposite sex. According to Kinsey, these folks are pretty rare
1 Predominantly heterosexual, only incidentally homosexual: Capable of only emotional attachments with people of the opposite sex, but admits some physical attraction for members of the same sex.
2 Predominantly heterosexual, but more than incidentally homosexual: Capable of only emotional attachments with people of the opposite sex, but is comfortable pursuing physical relationships with members of the same sex.
3 Equally heterosexual and homosexual: Capable of emotional and physical attachments with members of either sex. This is where I sit. As does, apparently, OneSnowyOwl. Apparently, according to Kinsey, this degree is not particularly prevalent, either.
4 Predominantly homosexual, but more than incidentally heterosexual: Capable of only emotional attachments with people of the same sex, but admits some physical attraction for members of the opposite sex.
5 Predominantly homosexual, only incidentally heterosexual: Capable of only emotional attachments with people of the same sex, but is comfortable pursuing physical relationships with members of the opposite sex.
6 Exclusively homosexual: Capable of only physical and emotional attachments with people of the opposite sex. You'd think this one would be rare, too, as the extremes seem to be, but it is apparently not as rare as #1 and #3.

I think that Stompy has a point too:
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I think a lot of females are bi just for the attention factor as opposed to actually enjoying it or being into other females... especially the younger girls.

I'm sure guys would be the same way, though, so I'm not just picking on the fems If it was widely known that MOST, if not all, females are turned on by man on man action, there'd be a hell of a lot more "bi" men.
Although I disagree that there would be more "bi" men if women were more vocal about their interest in man on man action, society doesn't really provide for masculine security when it comes to homosexuality or bisexuality. Honestly, there is a much greater societal stigma on man on man action than on woman on woman action.

The thing is, a lot of women do it for the attention. Most of them fall into either #2 or #3 on the Kinsey scale, and with the stigma being so much less for female bisexuality (as long as they still like men, they're not abnormal), and there is a fascination with women who are sufficiently into exhibitionism to entertain the crowd with passionate displays with another woman. There is no pressure... They aren't expecting a relationship from their display. And men find that sort of display enticing, and I'm going to tell you that men, in general, are much more comfortable with the idea that their girl has been with other girls than they are with the idea that their girl has been with other men.

For me, its all about who I find attractive. I've never been particularly inhibited when it comes to expressing my attraction, so I've always been one to pursue the object of my attraction regardless of their gender. Men sometimes find it disconcerting... Y'all talk about wanting us to make the first move, and be clear about our motives, but the second we do, y'all freak out because we intimidate you. Or you think we're some kind of slut (see my above comment about men's thoughts about girls who've been with other guys). Women either a. freak out because they're straight and not interested in women, or b. return the favor and we have a lovely time and everything's wonderful. *grins* Sort of.

Ultimately, I think, it boils down to the fact that there's a difference, no matter whether or not you're straight, bi or gay, between trolling for sex and trolling for relationships.
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