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Expectations are different from rules.
There are all sorts of things we expect from others just on the basis of their having a certain status. Our most intimate relationships are naturally going to carry with them a certain amount expectations due to our knowing our mate more intimately than others. I expected Grace to send me flowers on Valentine's Day, not because I feel she's obligated to do that, but because that's how she does things on holidays. I expect it because it's part of what I've come to recognize as her typical behavior.
There are a myriad of these, each accompanied by a different degree of disappointment if they don't occur.
As for obligations, there are few other than to love, trust, and be honest with each other. All else follows on that.
Gilda
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