The psychology of a 'facial'
If you've watched porn before, you've probably seen a facial. It's when the male sprays his semen all over the girl's face. Put in such terms, it's not a very glamorous event. However, to many, this is a very erotic scene - enough to influence some males to seek to actually reenact it with their own partners. The flipside to that however, is that by some, it is seen as very degrading towards woman. The following is an analysis on both ends of the spectrum. Hopefully people can chime in with their observations and opinions.
Anti-facial Female:
Some women cite health concerns and some cite general cleanliness concerns, but the majority of the anti-facial crowd usually jump on the idea that facials are demeaning towards women. A woman, on her knees, mouth open, subservient, ready to accept a man's sperm, which usually shoots out quickly and awkwardly to make the girl look foolish could definately be seen as degrading. In many porn videos, women are shown as looking dumb or being disrespected and 'forced' to deal with a man's fluids. This is the depiction that women usually take with them when they imagine what their own man is thinking when he may request a facial.
Pro-facial Female:
A woman who looks to accept a man spraying his semen into her face is rare. However, of the women I've spoken to in the past, this desire is not indicative of subservient behavior. It seems to be more a trait of the 'free spirit' who has little qualms about behavior in a private setting. The general idea is "messy = fun" and a facial is definately messy. Not only that, but it pleases women to be able to get their man to orgasm and this is one of many ways to do that. While of course, with a little bad luck, the moment can turn from heated and passionate to a comedy reel, the very idea that few women are even willing to go through with this act gives the lady involved an empowered feeling. Women do want to be able to please their man like no other can.
Anti-facial Male:
A pattern begins to emerge as we look at males who have no desire to give or ask for a facial. As with the females who are against it, they either don't find it erotic at all or see it as demeaning to their partner. There are many places in which a male can 'finish up' which can be even more erotic than on a girl's face. To many, it's simply not satisfying and it puts them on the spot.
Pro-facial Male:
Since it's generally the male who is getting off during this kind of activity, it's not too biased to say that it mostly comes down to how the male wants it. Does he want to forcefully spray his load onto a girl's struggling and contorted face? Does he want to release his come at the will of his lustful partner? Does he want to *surprise* his lady with more than she had been bargaining for? Arguments both good and bad could be made for any approach a male takes to being involved in a facial. Simply put: if a male wants to give a facial, his intentions should be questioned. They could range anywhere from harmless messy fun, to contempt and disrespect.
In my own opinion, I think it's fuckin' hot as hell to have a girl who wants you to come. Not only that, but she's really into the moment and it doesn't matter where... in fact she wants it to be as messy as possible. Wow that is fun. I think the general zone of "on the face" is like that rare treat. I mean, while coming inside her is amazing, and coming over various other body parts is great fun too, the face is like caviar; you dont eat it every day and it doesn't taste as good as a steak, but you definately feel important when you do eat it.
I love it when a girl wants to be messy. Sometimes I feel like I limit myself to a lot of activity because I am not totally comfortable with really messy situations. A girl who wants to be messy? Sign me up. She's free willed and unrestrained.
To wrap this all up, I feel that porn is responsible for both good and bad opinions of facials. Facials themselves are neither good nor bad - it all depends on the couple involved and how their opinions on the matter meet up. I urge everyone to realize this and not make assumptions about your next hot date.
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