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I have emailed him phone numbers and website addresses for dealing with his problems the day he told me how he was feeling. He's told that not in so many words but you know the language when you've worked with depressed people. I have no training but I know depression, i worked in a Mental Healt ward at a hospital as 'the guy that holds people down' or 'makes sure they don't hang themself' person. I've talked to him every day since, there is a line I can't go under because he can just sign off or take off whenever he doesn't want to talk about it. I don't want to force it on him. I've tried to reach other friends I know in the area, everyone that I know of is aware of the situation, I can't make anyone do anything in my position. I'm trying to get our friends to go see him on a daily basis because one of the problems is he knows no one in town and has no ambition or skills to meet new people and sits in his apartment watching TV, drinking and mulling over how terrible things are.
Beer tokens in the mail I don't think is a good idea if you're trying to stop an alcoholic from drinking.
His family knows, he told them he was depressed but only wants to talk to me about details. They've urged him to see a mental health professional as well.
In the end, I can do everything I can but I cannot throw him in the car and drive him to a doctor's office. I am not making excuses about distance, time or money those are facts. I have time for him, whenever he needs it he knows it. When I cannot afford my text books for class then it seems to venture that I can't go to see him. I have to do it online, it's the only way. Which sucks.
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"A real leader faces the music, even if he doesn't like the tune." - unknown quote
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