Originally Posted by Sage

Woah Woah Woah....



First of all, you need to figure out if you even want to be married. Being married does NOT mean that if you go and talk to someone you might "fall back in love with them." That's a very, very immature attitude towards relationships in general. You don't get married to the flavor of the week, you get married becuase you want to be with the person FOREVER. Either get that fully and completely understood or get a divorce NOW.

Secondly, NO DO NOT TALK TO THIS GIRL. Doubly so if it will put strain on your marriage. You're a big boy now, you have big boy responsibilities, you're married. Manda needs to learn she's a big girl too and can be a big girl all by herself. She's probably feeling like she needs someone to take care of her problems for her and decided to talk to you cause you have a soft spot for sob stories.

Manda sounds like the least of your problems. You're coming here to TFP, posting about the possibility of you falling back into love with someone who has a 3month old and a drug addiction??? And you're MARRIED??? You seriously need to have a sit-down with yourself and think about what's going on with you. Why did you get married? How long have you been married? How long were you with your wife before you got married? If she suddenly was struck ugly, would you still want to be married to her? You need to work on your own marriage before you try and solve anyone else's problems. You already have a woman in distress in your life- your wife. If you're not happy with your marriage, she probably isn't either, and it's your NUMBER 1 priority right now to get that straightened out. Whether that be more communication between you and your wife, counseling, or a divorce, you owe it to yourself and to her to be as open as possible.

And so no, don't talk to Manda. Let her grow up- it's the best thing you can do for her.