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Originally Posted by Sage
I'm assuming you're a senior in HS (the whole eating lunch together thing).
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Actually, soma's in college. But anyways...
Yeah, basically you're making a huge deal out of nothing. This was a mistake my first college boyfriend made as well. I was trying hard to be friends with his friends, perhaps a little too hard, and he mistook it for flirtation--in his mind, me flirting with other people was a bad thing (in the end, me talking to other guys was a bad thing, but we'll leave it at that).
Now, either you're chill with the fact that your girl talks to other guys or you aren't. The fact is, when girls talk to the opposite sex--especially girls who are very socially acclimated--flirtation happens. It happens because flirting is a natural social function that puts the subject at ease.
It's really nothing to worry about, and you're freaking out for no reason at all. If she's with you, she's with you. If she's not--well, you've only been going out two months. Not a whole lot of time wasted. If you are curious, just ASK her how she feels about Anthony. Not: "Do you like Anthony?" but "You and Anthony seem to be getting along well. (act pleased about this) How do you feel about him? Would you say you're getting to be friends?"
Furthermore, about her inquiry about his presence at lunch--I do that all the time to my boyfriend--"Is Kevin coming? Did you call Matt?" etc, etc, because I LIKE his friends and like to spend time with them. Chances are, her enthusiasm for your friend stems from the fact she's enthusiastic about YOU.