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At many points in my life I've been the guy that was puzzled by the reactions of people around him because I don't see or read emotions of people well, even the ones that "most people get". My heart is full of good intentions, but some people don't see that and bottle things up until they explode. Problems could have easily been avoided if people had told me what they were feeling instead of hinting around and hoping that I would see what they were too shy\afraid\unsure to tell me. So I really understand where this guy is coming from, and I think you could be surprised how these things can hurt a person. One of the worst feelings for me at least is being misunderstood and thought of as something I am not, and a lot of my life has been spent trying to repair damages I never knew about. I think that's unfair to everyone involved.
If you are so happy with how everything turned out and are fine with being seen as a bitch, why do you want the board to tell you that you were "not being an asshole"? I'm also surprised that you posted "frankly if he's hurt... well, too bad". Why don't you care when others get hurt? Is this hurtful action you took justified because he hurt you?
I hope maybe in the future you can have more patience with my posts because I'm trying to give you an opinion you asked for, and an opinion that is heartfelt.
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"The question isn't who is going to let me, it's who is going to stop me." (Ayn Rand)
"The truth is that our finest moments are most likely to occur when we are feeling deeply uncomfortable, unhappy, or unfulfilled. For it is only in such moments, propelled by our discomfort, that we are likely to step out of our ruts and start searching for different ways or truer answers." (M. Scott Peck)
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