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mandy · 02-16-2006, 12:31 AM

so, you are not sure what you believe in? and your daughter doesnt like her catechism classes because of the teacher? is that the correct way to put it?because i dont wana get my facts wrong.

but if that is why and she's been going to these catechism classes for the past couple of years im guessing because she's already made her first holy communion then i suggest you let her continue with it.

you did the right thing by talking to her and telling her what her options are but a nine year old child is(in my opinion) too young to be making decisions like that.and, her decision will be conflicted with what her parents want instead of what she wants or needs.

she has the chance to believe in something and not be as confused as you are now.

my suggestion to you is that you keep her in these catechism classes until such a time she is old enough to make her own decisions.

if she decides later in life that she does not want to be catholic then so be it.the onus is on you as her mother to give her the chance to believe not because she thinks mommy and daddy does but because "i believe"

and i have a question for you sportswidow. you said your husband is catholic and was brought up that way and you, before you got married, followed the jewish religion?and then you converted when you got married?

do you think that maybe you were influenced into turning catholic, because that could be what's causing your confusion?my advice to you is, no one can tell you what to believe, thats all up to you .

i am a catholic and brought up that way and so is the rest of my family but, my boyfriend is mauravian...my point is that i dont expect him to convert just because im catholic and i would think that he would want the same from me.

my dad was union congregational and he is only now converting after 23 years of marriage, not because of my mother but because he feels its the right thing to do for him.

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mandy Addict Location: Port Elizabeth, South Africa	so, you are not sure what you believe in? and your daughter doesnt like her catechism classes because of the teacher? is that the correct way to put it?because i dont wana get my facts wrong. but if that is why and she's been going to these catechism classes for the past couple of years im guessing because she's already made her first holy communion then i suggest you let her continue with it. you did the right thing by talking to her and telling her what her options are but a nine year old child is(in my opinion) too young to be making decisions like that.and, her decision will be conflicted with what her parents want instead of what she wants or needs. she has the chance to believe in something and not be as confused as you are now. my suggestion to you is that you keep her in these catechism classes until such a time she is old enough to make her own decisions. if she decides later in life that she does not want to be catholic then so be it.the onus is on you as her mother to give her the chance to believe not because she thinks mommy and daddy does but because "i believe" and i have a question for you sportswidow. you said your husband is catholic and was brought up that way and you, before you got married, followed the jewish religion?and then you converted when you got married? do you think that maybe you were influenced into turning catholic, because that could be what's causing your confusion?my advice to you is, no one can tell you what to believe, thats all up to you . i am a catholic and brought up that way and so is the rest of my family but, my boyfriend is mauravian...my point is that i dont expect him to convert just because im catholic and i would think that he would want the same from me. my dad was union congregational and he is only now converting after 23 years of marriage, not because of my mother but because he feels its the right thing to do for him.