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If the boy respects the girlfriend- he's not gonna do anything... no matter what the friend throws at him...
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and if the girlfriend respects the boyfriend, she's not going to go apeshit if he talks about how her hanging with other guys makes him feel.
It seems like a lot of the guys on this forum are saying they want to be able to have a normal, open conversation with their SO's about this issue, and the girls are saying things along the lines of "if you say anything about this or feel like this, then it means you don't trust me." Where does one draw the line? How, exactaly, is a guy supposed to bring this up to his girlfriend (or a girl to her boyfriend) without her flipping out?
I feel like a degree of the "if you even have to say you don't feel good about it, it means you don't trust me" comes from the girl/boy KNOWING that at some point there has been some disrespectful (to the relationship) attitudes/behaviors/thoughts towards the friend of the oppisite sex. If I had a guy friend I went and hung out with and there was NOTHING between us (least from my end) and Martel had an issue with it, I would be doing EVERYTHING in my power to make sure that the issue went away. Talk about why he had the issue, talk about where his feelings come from, talk about how to deal with them. I wouldn't get all up in arms about "him not trusting me! *pout*"
The world would revolve a little easier if women would act like men sometimes....