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I think the issue of trusting or not trusting the gf/wife/whatever is not the main point that innovis is trying to get to. Obviously nobody "owns" their significant other, and I don't think he's trying to talk about telling him/her who he/she can or cannot hang out with. It's not about the control, as I understand it. It's about trying to tell your SO that a person who seems to really be interested in being friends is really only trying to get into your SO's pants. This is not something that people feel comfortable with seeing happen to their loved ones.
I know there have been a bunch of times that Sage and I have been out together and interacted with some guy in whatever capacity (waiters, people who work somewhere, people hanging out at the comic book shop, whatever) where afterwards she thought "oh, he was nice" and I pointed out that he was quite obviously sexually attracted to her and that was the basis for his being nice. A good 90% of the time she had no idea.
Let me tell you this: Ladies, guys can TELL. We KNOW what other guys are doing when they are being all nice and sweet to you in front of us. It is as obvious to us as if they were wearing a big sign around their necks. When we then tell you about it, we're just trying to point it out to you so that you know these people are not being honest and truthful. I think that's really what it comes down to, we love you enough to be offended when someone is relating to you in a dishonest way. It doesn't have anything to do with controlling you or a lack of trust. It would be just like if some sleazy door-to-door salesman was trying to sell our elderly parents something they obviously didn't need, but they thought he was so nice that they invited him in for coffee.
We can tell when people are trying to take advantage of you, and we want you to know it so that you can be on the lookout for it yourselves.
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