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Originally Posted by tecoyah
Though it may be hard to believe....I am a somewhat flirtatious person, and my wife is well aware of this. We communicate very well, and she has no problem telling me when I might be crossing into the "Leading On" territory. Personality plays a very powerful role in the interaction between the sexes, and if you do not understand the way your SO's mind works (intent), it is likely there will be misunderstanding. Communication is the key to ANY relationship, and cannot be stressed enough.
My wife has no issue with the way I interact with female friends, But there is a fine line in the sand on the flirtation front....which requires continuous attention to avoid a misstep. When I do get close to this line...I know, but may cross it anyway because of who I am, and I depend on her to point these things out to me. In my case the concern is welcomed and indeed, a part of the relationship. This would be impossible if we did not talk about our lives with each other, and here again, is the key to making each other happy.
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Tec, you might as well have been talking about me...
My current SO has a lot to deal with when it comes to me! Yes, I can be quite the flirt. He thinks it's funny and he likes that I do my best to keep people comfortable by doing so (flirting is a natural social action, and it tends to put opposite sexes at ease). Furthermore, I have not one but TWO best guy friends, J. and S. Well, S. and I were, ahem, a little more than friends for some time before I met my current guy. Now, when I am around these guys, we hug and cuddle and horseplay. We wrestle and share beds and have an incredible physical intimacy despite the difference in sexes.
Yet my SO trusts me absolutely, and knows how much I love him. He knows that S. and I were always better off as friends (my own admission). Funny thing is, now he and S. are becoming quite buddy-buddy (yay!) as are he and J. He has no problem with the fact that sometimes, when we drink over at S.'s, I climb into S.'s bed and fall asleep. I doubt he would have a problem if I crashed there overnight, even. Why? Because he TRUSTS me.
And he's damn well RIGHT to trust me.