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Welcome to the TFP... and yeah, sometimes we just have to be blunt around here. Not to be mean, but sometimes it's the only way to get things across. So here goes.
The girl is trying to break up with you, but she doesn't have the balls to finish it off properly. This is where it's your turn to just accept what she's trying to do and break it off. This is for your own good, man.
I am in a long-distance relationship too, and we know three other couples who are doing the same. For us it is only 3 hours' driving... we have managed for the last 12 months, and have another year ahead of us. We spent 3 months apart last summer when I went to Africa and he was in the US... we missed each other horribly, but that was a good indication that we were doing fine. It was mutual.
For another couple we know, they have each been living in France and the US for the last year, seeing each other every couple of months. They have one of the most committed, exclusive relationships I've seen. They got engaged during that time and they will be getting married later this year, after nearly another year of distance. I have no doubts that their relationship has been strengthened because of the distance, and they have only increased their love for each other.
I should also note that in all of the long-distance situations I know, we are all age 25 and up... the woman getting married this year is 32. There is a hell of difference between 19 and 32. Or even 19 and 26 (my age); I was a total headcase when I was 19, unable to make any kind of rational decision and wrecking at least one relationship. Not to come down on you for your age, but mostly because it sounds like it is the girl who has the problem. She's too immature for you, and she'll hurt you even worse if you don't let go of her now, when she's begging you to do so.
I'm telling you, long-distance IS possible... but your situation just sounds like it can only get worse, friend. Take a clean break and try as hard as you can to move on. If it goes any further, it's going to become verbal/emotional abuse for you, and that ain't right.
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And think not you can direct the course of Love;
for Love, if it finds you worthy, directs your course.
--Khalil Gibran
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