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Originally Posted by abaya
This is the part about parenting that really freaks me out... trusting my own kids. But then again, my parents never sat me down and did all that amazing stuff you are talking about, willravel... I think if they had, I honestly would not have been that curious at such a young age.
I think educating kids as much as possible about the realities of this stuff provides a VERY strong foundation, if not to stop them from porn but certainly to keep the lines open between child and parent. For me, I want my future child(ren) to feel comfortable asking me and my spouse about *anything,* and to not feel threatened/embarrassed about their bodies/sexuality. Of course, there is privacy... but I hope they will not be the type to "hide" things from me. It is a mutual trust, isn't it?... I never really had that, but I want to provide that.
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In my limited experience, I've learned to simply answer all questions in the most complete way possible. When I taught piano, I'd get asked anything about everythin. I once explained nuclear fission to a 7 year old. It wasn't the information that the kid appreciated (eyes glazed over after the word isotope left my mouth), it was the fact that I was able to treat him like an adult and more than willing to be helpful. Maybe he'll understand it late, maybe he won't, but he'll always remember that I was willing to help him understand. Also, sometimes they completly get what you're saying, and then it pays off in every way.
Abaya, I'm sure you'll make an excelent parent.