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Regardless of how you feel, which seems very honest, whomever this woman, conciously or not is using you. There's being a nice guy, and there's being over the top. You've come on way to strong I feel even before asking or expressing a desire to be in a relationship with her that is 'beyond friendship' that it's like a really bad bluf at a card table, she's got all the good cards and you're holding squat... because you've tipped your hand.
However, I sympathize with your situation. While I haven't been in love before I certainly can at least emote what you are going through, you've gone head over heals for a girl that may or may not feel the same way. She might care about you and she might even be interested in a relationship... however with everything that seems apparent in her life she might not be willing to make the effort on her part... continue to hold you in regard as a good friend who basically almost literally give her the shirt off his back.
I think what would be a good idea is to create distance between the two of you. Start simple by maybe hanging out with other friends. Perhaps the next time she contacts you requesting something menial then decline politely (eg - she needs a ride to work, tell her unfortunately you cannot do it, I can tell you probably wouldn't outright lie to her, but just refuse, in a nice way. She can walk or take a taxi. She needs to be distanced from you as much as you need to be from her for it to work.
She might not even realize how she is abusing you emotionally. I highly doubt it though. My experience with Women is that they are pretty much empathic and can smell it when a guy is near her who is interested, especially who is willing to do anything just to ge with her for a few hours in the evening, even at the supermarket etc. You give, she takes. It's hard to say the extent, because who knows if she is clearly manipulating you or simply taking advantage of a situation that benifits her significantly.... a nice young Man who obviously is dedicating to making her life better in whatever way possible.
Good luck I guess
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