I don't know if I ever really 'tested' my boyfriends. I was a game player though
I would see if they would follow me if I left upset or mad. I would see how they reacted if I cried. These tests were bad. It was a play in emotion and not a good thing to do. However, at the time, I thought that if they would follow me or reacted the correct way, they really cared. Funny that I ended up marrying the only guy who didn't chase after me when I left. I guess when I thought the guys passed they actually failed. Anyway...these tests are unrelated to yours.
When I read your post, I don't see you as 'testing' them as much as getting to know how they feel about your values. The things that you did is no different than other families asking about religion, career aspirations, and values. I don't think that you are being dishonest because you are just doing things you would normally do. You aren't setting up traps or wanting to see the guy do the wrong thing. You are just making sure that this guy or that guy is worthy of spending time with Sissy.
Personally, I see nothing wrong with it.
