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What defines cheating?
Last week I had a lunch conversation with some guys that I work with, and an interesting question came up. One of the guys in the office recently spent a few days in NYC with some folks that we do a fair amount of business with along with some friendly competitors. My coworker and one of the competitors ended up in a massage parlor at the end of a long night of drinking where my coworker got a handjob. Now, I went to this guy's wedding, our wives know each other, he's helped me out of some jams and vice verca. The way that he justfied the experience has actually made me pause and think about the whole thing. As best I remember, here's what he said:
"I just paid her to do something that I could have done myself. If I hadn't been out with David, I would have just gone back to the hotel, beaten off and gone to the airport (this was on his last night there and he had an early flight back). I pay people to do a lot of things for me that I can do myself like mow my lawn, do my laundry and clean my house, and I certainly could have done this myself too, but I chose not to."
Now I have never been unfaithful to my wife, and I have no intentions of ever testing the boundaries of infidelity, but I am interested in this from more of an intellectual piont than anything else. Given that I too pay people to do things that most of the population does for themselves (housekeeper, accountant, landscaper, general handyman, etc.), I am certainly familar with where he's coming from, but I'm on the fence about this one. Maybe I'm just overthinking this thing, but I'm having a problem forming an opinion about whether or not my coworker has cheated on his wife. Opinions?
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