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Originally Posted by crow_daw
Allright guys, how about this? I definitely have my apprehensions about it, but I mean maybe it could work....
My other roommate's mom seems to think that we should tell Cuz that we don't want her over here anymore, at all. The desired outcome of course, would be that if it's that much harder for them to see each other, then it will eventually dissolve what pathetic excuse for a relationship they have left.
Now I realize the potential for disaster that we have here. We obviously don't wanna like, piss him off and push him away, but I mean hell............desperate times call for desperate measures.
But also, we seriously do not want her around us anymore. It's not just her relationship with Cuz that we want to end. We're not comfortable with her being in our house, because she has been very vocal about her hatred for us, and after the things I've seen her do, I wouldn't put anything past her, and we just don't feel comfortable at all with her being around anymore.
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He's not going to take that well. You're giving him an ultimatum (us or her) and that's going to make him feel trapped, pressured and persecuted.
So, you have a choice to make. If you tell him that she's no longer welcome in your home, you need to make sure the reason you're doing it is for your own well-being. If he's continually bringing her around despite your misgivings, then you need to decide whether his welfare or your own is more important to you.
Me, I'd do it anyway. Explain to him that while he's free to date whomever he should like, you do not get along with this girl and that you're just not comfortable having her in your home. Try not to disparage her and try not to guilt him for wanting to be with her; he's made his choice, you're going to abide by it. However, there is a situation brought on by that which is unacceptable to you and it needs to change.
Whether or not that will cause him to ultimately break up with her isn't for me to say. It's really dependent on him.