I have never been jealous before in my semi short life (im 20) however last night i was....and i now i understand Shakespeares definition of Jealousy as a Green Monster.
Just a bit of quick background. I have been seeing this incredible girl for 7 months now. By far and away my longest relationship. Previously i had only had short flings/one night stands.
We however live in different countries. Im in England, she is in Germany. We met whilst i was working in Germany.
Its not all bad though, pretty much every weekend either i fly to her or she flies to me.
And we are really making the long distance thing work. I love her more than i can express, and believe she feels exactly the same(i was the first boy she has ever said i love you to,) Not once in our 7 months have we fought, and every moment together is just incredible. (Basically the relationship is a goodun
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We both attend University. She has a nice group of friends, who are mostly male. This is absolutely fine as far as i can see. Furthermore she isnt the kind to go out and party and she is definetley not flirty. I like the fact that she is around some good honest guys because it prevents other men from trying to hit on her.
That is until she starts telling me that she has met this really nice guy, lets call him Daniel, he sounds a great guy and initially im not too fussed. Im a great believer in trust and trust her implicitly. I dont, however trust this guy.
Here are my reasons:
He is a "Player" and has never believed in love until he hears about our relationship from my GF
He tried asking her out before he knew that she had a BF.
He calls her quite often, just to see how she is, over New Years he called at 6am in the morning.... now guys just dont do that unless they want the girl, its not just being friendly imho.
He tries to give her massages,
This one is probably petty on my part, but, one time my GF told me that he tried to have a relationship with her knee, as he thought it was the most beautiful knee in existence.
Ok so none of these things bugged me too much, until yesterday. I had a nice long chat with my GF this morning and found out what she did last night. (i had a general idea as she tells me what her plans are)
My GF went to his house yesterday to do some serious studying, he lives about a half hour from her in the university town. And they study for 4 hours or so, then she says that they went out for a pizza and then came home and watched some DVDs and made Caiparini's. And his "mom" made Muffins....
So last night for me was one of complete anguish and no sleep, the things your mind can think up when its tired and doesnt know the full story are unbelieveable
The reason i am so worried is that in all my past known social interactions, a guy just doesnt invite a beautiful girl(she is really pretty) to his house and then offer for her to stay the night and drink cocktails and watch movies with him espeically without an ulterior motives.
Im going to see my lady on tuesday, and i you guys, how i should broach the subject. I feel genuinely hurt. I dont want to be the kind of jerk Boyfriend who wont allow his GF to have male friends and spend time with them, thats just not fair or natural, but i believe this draws the line.
How do i talk to her about this?
best,