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You know... being fit is definately something to shoot for but when "encouraging" someone along you have to be gentle and cautious. My "soon-to-be" ex-husband was very frustrated with me after I had our two children. I am 5'10" and around 190.. I've never been slight framed...I mean in high school I was 155-145(at my VERY lightest) and could bench near my weight...almost 145. I am very athletic and from what people tell me, I'm still hot...even 35-40lbs over weight. My youngest daughter is 22 months and my husband started in on my for not dropping the weight when she was 4 months old! He'd say things like "we're you going to work ou?" "you know if you don't use the gym its a waste of money...if you don't want to loose the weight and just look like THAT, I guess that's your choice...BUT...I don't know if I can handle it." "why are you eating that...have some self control" These may not sound too bad but believe me, everything he said had a severe negative spin on it.
And, I believe you need to give a woman support in a POSITIVE WAY! Reward her...buy her flowers when she reaches a goal she set by herself...DON'T PUSH HER! Let her cry when she's frustrated...and most importantly be involved. When you set a diet together, don't bring things into the house you know is not on your diet. After all, you can only benefit by eating better. Packing her lunch before work is also a great way to support your partner. It's convenient for them because they don't have to think of what might be good later and it gives you an opportunity to write her an encouraging little note an surprise her at lunch. This will also eliminate her need to hit the fast food!
At any rate, nothing will change until she's ready in her own mind to make the shift. I am finally stable in my heart/mind and am fed up with feeling unhealthy and have decided to join 2 exercise classes and better myself...and this time it's NOT to make my husband happy, it's to feel good in my own skin!
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