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Ok, I completely understand how hard this can be. I'm the same type of person, I can't say the things I really feel to people that are close to me most of the time, because I don't want to push them away or whatever. But that is not the way to be. You and I both have got to get stronger. I've actually been taking strides myself.
My three roommates (we're all guys) are all pretty damn lazy. I find that I do the majority of the housework, cook for everybody, etc. But the bills were paid and all of that. However, I have since remedied the housework situation for the most part. It has definitely gotten alot better. I just now flat out refuse to do that shit by myself, and I've told them about it, and they went with it, because they truly are my friends. They just needed a little pushing. So I hope that you too can successfully fix your own situation.
All of the advice you've been given here about not letting him mooch and all that is definitely true. They know what they're talking about, and that is what you should do. However, one of my aforementioned lazy roommates is moving to New Orleans in about a week (we live in TN), and while he used to really piss me off every now and then with our living situation, that has really fucked with my head. So, while you should listen to everyone and what they're saying to you, just keep in mind that if you do actually care about this guy, you don't want to push him away until you absolutely have no other choice.
I apologize if I rambled too much, I tend to do that.
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