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shesus · 01-15-2006, 08:02 AM

When to break off a relationship is different depending on the situation surrounding it. If you could provide some more information like time together, why you feel you want to break up, and things like that we may be able to help you more.

I can, however, give you some examples of my previous break ups.
1) I was dating a very obsessive, possessive guy. I wasn't allowed to go out on my own, I wasn't allowed to talk to or even look at another guy. I tried to break it off many times unsuccessfully. One day I forgot to wear a bracelet he got me. He got extremely mad and while following me to work (to make sure that's where I was going), he tried to pass me on a curvy road to show his anger. He lost control of the car and hit a telephone pole. He broke both of his legs and was in a coma for about 2 weeks. That coma made me come to my senses and I ended the relationship while he was in the physical therapy clinic.
2) This relationship was with a high school sweetheart. We got engaged the Christmas after we graduated. I thought it was everything I wanted, but as I got older and matured, I realized that we wanted different things and had different goals. I wanted to move to a large city and he wanted to stay in the country. He liked to get drunk every night and I was into settling down and getting out of the drunken every night state. After much thought and a few backing outs, I finally told him it was over. This was very hard though because he was in the Army and stationed in Germany. He took emergency leave and tried to convince me to stay with him. We had been engaged for 2 years and was planning on getting married in less than a year. I stuck by my choice because I had thought it over for about 6 months and was certain that's what I wanted to do.

The major thing with a break up is that you think through it so you don't have that 'what if...' thought. You also don't want to regret and look back thinking 'what could have been...' I don't regret any break up. I remember the reason for every break up and still after all these years agree with my choice.

Good luck!

01-15-2006, 08:02 AM	#3 (permalink)
shesus Fancy Location: Chicago	When to break off a relationship is different depending on the situation surrounding it. If you could provide some more information like time together, why you feel you want to break up, and things like that we may be able to help you more. I can, however, give you some examples of my previous break ups. 1) I was dating a very obsessive, possessive guy. I wasn't allowed to go out on my own, I wasn't allowed to talk to or even look at another guy. I tried to break it off many times unsuccessfully. One day I forgot to wear a bracelet he got me. He got extremely mad and while following me to work (to make sure that's where I was going), he tried to pass me on a curvy road to show his anger. He lost control of the car and hit a telephone pole. He broke both of his legs and was in a coma for about 2 weeks. That coma made me come to my senses and I ended the relationship while he was in the physical therapy clinic. 2) This relationship was with a high school sweetheart. We got engaged the Christmas after we graduated. I thought it was everything I wanted, but as I got older and matured, I realized that we wanted different things and had different goals. I wanted to move to a large city and he wanted to stay in the country. He liked to get drunk every night and I was into settling down and getting out of the drunken every night state. After much thought and a few backing outs, I finally told him it was over. This was very hard though because he was in the Army and stationed in Germany. He took emergency leave and tried to convince me to stay with him. We had been engaged for 2 years and was planning on getting married in less than a year. I stuck by my choice because I had thought it over for about 6 months and was certain that's what I wanted to do. The major thing with a break up is that you think through it so you don't have that 'what if...' thought. You also don't want to regret and look back thinking 'what could have been...' I don't regret any break up. I remember the reason for every break up and still after all these years agree with my choice. Good luck! __________________ Whatever did happen to your soul? I heard you sold it Choose Heaven for the weather and Hell for the company