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If you think the child is having problems, you tell a professional - not the child.
The professional has no hidden pain or anger to deal with and will do what is best for the child.
Your telling the child may be about serving your own needs. It can be hard to see sometimes. Perhaps anger at a person and wanting to damage the childs relationship with them etc.
It can be very frustrating to see someone getting away with such a terrible thing, but in the end it is the childs welfare which has the highest priority.
It is more than likely you are emotional involved with this-
Let a professional deal with it from day one, if a problem shows up .
The worst case senario is that the child remembers nothing and has no problems due to it, you tell them - now what you tell them becomes their memory and they will have problems. In essence you will have given them the problems of being sexual abused by giving them a memory - not the original person. Then the child may end up later on thinking you lied to hurt the real offender- if no one else verifies it. You could end up looking like the bad guy. A real mess!!
Now that is guilt, anger and a whole mess of trouble.
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