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Go with honesty. I mean real honesty, that is about you and your true feelings.
For example: I really feel deeply for you but I am afraid that these feeling will hurt the relationship this early on, or I never felt this way am I am afraid etc.
You see, real honesty means give the whole story including your fears, concerns etc.
It shows you are willing to trust the other persons capabilities.
Do it in a non-blaming way.
Do not use 'honesty' as a way to hurt -i.e. You look silly in that dress.
That is coming from a place you are feeling pain.
So the real honest thing to say would be,
I was hurt when .... Again no blame - just open honest discussion of your feelings.
When she talks - listen!!! No trying to change her mind - ie: That's wrong because...
She will tell you her pain and fears in her own way -you have to learn to hear it. Listen!!
Try and understand her pain or concerns and not change them.
You can say that I don't understand or that concerns me because I have a fear ...
Its hard to do, but if you want a deep relationship you can get there.
For me it was almost immediate since we both understood what being honest and good to each other was.
In the end the only thing a relationship is about is trust, love, respect and understanding.
If you hide things in order to control ithe relationship, you can't have all of the above.
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