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It sounds like she's as new to relationships as you, or she's so experienced, she now has a short list of specifics before she decides to further things along. I'm guessing the former. And I'm guessing maybe she's had some questions or pressure from friends or family.
Take advantage of this talk as a chance to get to know her better. Don't treat it like a potential mine field.
One caveat, you say you want to be in a long term relationship with her, but don't want to scare her off with that terminology... the fact is, you don't really know if you want to be long term or not. It's been 9 days. The best answer to that is somewhere along the lines that you'll be respectful of her ideas about how the relationship is going and be honest and stick to any boundaries you establish together.
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I think the Apocalypse is happening all around us. We go on eating desserts and watching TV. I know I do. I wish we were more capable of sustained passion and sustained resistance. We should be screaming and what we do is gossip. -Lydia Millet
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