Just as a bit of an update.......I had posted this same basic thread at about three different message boards that I visit. My wife stumbled upon it on the message board that I admin/own myself (she isn't a member there, but lurks on very rare occasion). The responses there weren't terribly different than here and her reading it led to what turned out to be a very positive conversation about it. She basically has done that sort of thing in an effort to please me, to exceed my expectations so to speak. We had a good conversation about ways we could both better do that for each other, and what ways we are better off not trying to do that.
