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Originally Posted by Seeker
I can't believe it... this girl has been up front, straight out telling it how it is, and now you want to rip apart her honesty and make her out to be this bad, immoral liar or something!
She's called it and now yosho has the problem.
Can yosho handle the fact that this girl wants to keep the relationship open... that is the question here.
yosho, like others have said, these are your emotions. Either you go for the ride or you don't. A growing experience this may be if you go for the ride, the challenge being maintaining your feelings, or overcoming your need for one-itis. But if you do go for it, remember that it is your one-itis and your only decision is if you think that is the only way to maintain a relationship.
I know of people who find open relationships more meaningful than others who limit themselves to 'one' other. It is only the capacity to maintain the self that enables your ability to have meaningful and healthy relationships, whether with only one other partner or more.
How far down the rabbit hole are you willing to go?
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Finally! I was getting worried that the people here didn't see the facts.
The girl was upfront and honest about the whole thing. She's not trying to trap yosho into being the "nice guy". She just doesn't believe in monogamy.
Yosho, the problem is yours. Getting her to change would be harder to do than trying to make her change religions (or to a religion). You either have to embrace her belief or move on. It's not something you can ignore or learn to live with, since it directly applies to your relationship. The decision is yours, and yours alone.