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Originally Posted by onodrim
From what you've shared here my guess is that it's not so much a physical problem as a mental one. She is probably jst nervous about the whole thing which is making her tense, etc. Like other have already suggested, it's really important to take things slow. Get here to know her own body and be comfortable with it and then move to doing more things together. The more laid back she is able to be about sex, the more she'll relax and enjoy what's going on. Don't let her have sex for the first time while generally tense and physically unprepared for it!  |
Thanks Ono! I agree, and sexually we take things really slow. I don't wna to make myself out to be the considerate boyfriend but I have been slowly letting her become comfortable with her body and my eyes. I'm taking it slow and letting her get into the idea of sharing her body with me. Just like I'm letting her undress me slowly, touch me slowly (and of course I mean we are going so far not moving slow motion, matrix style... although that could be pretty comical). We are slowly becoming aware of what we like. But, yes, I think she has problems with her own body even though she is beautiful... so very very beautiful. And I mean beautiful to me and conventionally beautiful. So perhaps that is the case.
So the why is figured out... is there any thing I can do to help her relax... other then just let her take her pace or getting her drunk (yes to one, no to the latter :S). Is there anything else I could do to help stretch things out...