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Well, if somebody asks me what I'm doing this weekend, I'm going to tell them -- even if my plans don't include them. Should I lie? What kind of a friend would that make me? The person who asks deserves an honest answer.
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So should I assume that your plans is a) with another mutual friend or b) with someone that the person who might want to tag along doesn't know? Because if it's a), I think they can ask, because otherwise you're just being mean by leaving them out. (Unless you're going with your bestest friend.)
If it's b), I think it's fine if you say no. (But then, I don't think they should even ask in the first place.)
Personally, I think
"That sounds like fun; is that a private party, or can anyone come?" and
"Sounds great, can I come?"
is practically the same thing. The second one is a little blunter, but you can answer both with:
"Well, it's my other friend's party, and he's just inviting us old high school friends.."
Btw, do you think when people ask if they can come they actually mean it, or was it just something said in passing?