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OK here is my situation and hopefully you guys can help me out. Moreso girls if possible since I dont really have an outlet to get a female's oppion on this type of stuff since its kinda personal but the ananomynity of the internet makes it easier :P.

I met this girl in July and she went back home for a few months and came back in September. The whole time she was back home (overseas) we talked pretty much daily through email and MSN. When she came back here to go to University Ive been hanging out with her a fair amount. Like around 2 times a week or so on average and I talk to her on MSN or on the phone pretty much everyday.

The second I met her I felt feelings towards her. I know this is stupid of me being a 22 year old guy but there is something really special about her that I just cant put my finger on. Maybe because she is so smart, we get along so well, she is so fun to be with, and hillarious not to mention beautiful. Pretty much everything I could ever wish for in a girl in my wildest dreams.

Ive had relationships in the past and Im the type of guy who is nice. I go out of my way to make peoples lives easier. For some reason when it comes to relationships it comes back to bite me in the ass. The girls Ive dated in the past have seemed to of taken advantage of my kindness and willingness to help them out. Now this whole time she has been here taking classes Ive done everything I can think of to make her life easier. I got her my old TV, telephone, gave her bedding, movies and anything else she needed for her first week becuase she didnt have much. Since then Ive taken her wherever she needed to go for groceries, to the mall, whatever just so I could spend those precious few minutes with her. Ive even taken my whole lunch break at work to drive over to her dorm and bring her a coffee when she was tired from studying all night for a midterm. Its just the type of guy I am I guess.

This whole time, which is about 4 months now Ive not made a move or anything because she has a lot on her plate especially being thousands of miles from home and having to deal with being in a new country, meeting new people, studying for school in not her native language, and just the ordeals of living with dormmates and other things.

Im pretty cautious when it comes to girls now since Ive been burned in almost every relationship in the past. I seem to go head first in without thinking so I decided to take my time with her and see how things turn out.

Now during these 4 months Ive done my best to read her signs but they are mixed to say the least. For example we went to a concert and we were approaching the security and she said "If they pat me down inappropriatly yell at them 'Hey! STOP TOUCHING MY GIRLFRIEND!'" Comments like that are common. Weve exchanged gifts on our birthdays and Christmas and I think we are pretty close.

I want to cross this friend line. Ive never had to do it before. Hell Ive never felt this way about a girl before in my life. Even ones Ive had relationships lasting 6+ months and knowing them longer. There is something amazing about her and I cant keep her off my mind. I mean Ill be reading a book and then notice Ive gone 3 pages of reading without remembering becuase Ive been thinking about her. I even find myself checking my messages on my home phone on the meer chance that she has called when Ive been at work, or check my email randomly to see if she sent a note or something. Ive never done this before to official girlfriends Ive had. She really means a lot to me and I dont want this oppertunity to pass me by if I have the chance.

I just dont know how to go about it. I want to just come out and tell her how I feel. Im scared though. Rejection would be devistating I think. I know that sounds lame. You older TFP members will think "This youngin is got a case of puppy love of something" but I think its more than that. I really want to have a meaningful relationship with this girl after having relationships in the past that were pretty much useless and a waste of time where it ended up in me getting used.

Any tips on how to go about telling her? Any experience or advice for those who have made it work?

Please help me out here. I dont want to loose her. Only if being able to write out to her how I felt would be appropriate but I know its not. I have to do it in person.

Thanks
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