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DonovanDuVal · 12-30-2005, 06:06 AM

You might want to try the following ideas.

Stop thinking.

Go with the flow.

Playing pool might not be the best place for a date, but in the early stages it helps to have something to fix your mind on if the conversation dries up. I think that pool is a problem because at the very beginning of the relationship you are competing.

Try having a shorter date over just coffee where you just talk to her, look in her eyes and smile, and hold her hand, or whatever feels right at the time. Don't think about doing these things, that'll make you seem awkward, just do them.

Throw in a time constraint for the date so that it doesn't have a chance to get awkward. Have somewhere to be and tell her so in advance so that she knows that this is just an hour (or however long you want) for coffee after work.

These might seem like 'player' type tactics, but they also offer a common sense approach to keeping the relationship on track in the early stages. Anyway just a few things that you might want to consider.

12-30-2005, 06:06 AM	#4 (permalink)
DonovanDuVal Crazy Location: UK	You might want to try the following ideas. Stop thinking. Go with the flow. Playing pool might not be the best place for a date, but in the early stages it helps to have something to fix your mind on if the conversation dries up. I think that pool is a problem because at the very beginning of the relationship you are competing. Try having a shorter date over just coffee where you just talk to her, look in her eyes and smile, and hold her hand, or whatever feels right at the time. Don't think about doing these things, that'll make you seem awkward, just do them. Throw in a time constraint for the date so that it doesn't have a chance to get awkward. Have somewhere to be and tell her so in advance so that she knows that this is just an hour (or however long you want) for coffee after work. These might seem like 'player' type tactics, but they also offer a common sense approach to keeping the relationship on track in the early stages. Anyway just a few things that you might want to consider. __________________ "I've been Donovan DuVal. Take care of yourselves, and each other."