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I was in the same situtation as you not too long ago. The only way that realtionship worked was when we were both miserable, and that is not a fun realtionship to be in. When we were both unhappy we had all the time in the world to be there for each other. There are some major problems with that. 1) You realze that you've run out of stuff to say because you can only spend time talking and you arnt really out DOING anything that you can tell stories about. 2) You become very needy and easily upset. and 3) Its very easy to be jealous. Eventaully she decided to not be miserable and I didn't. It just drove us apart and made me jealous, needy, upset ect... not very much the man she attracted to in the first place. Obviously she ended up breaking up with me.
I think the best thing you can do is realize where you are at in life right now, perhaps you need to take the stress off this realtionship, do your own thing without her. She will appreciate not having foresake activities with her friends all the time for you. Which, as a friend of a person in a LDR is really annoying. Eventually, if she just has more memories of you being a hinderance to her than a source of happiness, she will want to get away from you. And not this isnt all your fault, I felt like everything was my fault when I was in your shoes and that probably made me even more upset. Be able to call her on her shit to. Girls dont want a push-over. They want someone who is strong, confident, and happy with themselves. Be that guy.
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Here are some phrases I'd like to be able to say, in all honesty, before I die.
"That's it, send out the ninjas!"
"So then I had to kill my way to the second floor."
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