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Married 6 years - and yes, I still occasionally think about other people. Generally, I use my fantasizing to improve my lust for my wife. I refocus my sexually energy back to her before it goes too far astray. What you are feeling is completely normal. The first three years of marriage is to define boundaries and "learn" how to be a spouse. That's why I would recommend to anyone to hold off children for three years. That way you can be a good spouse before you have to learn to be a parent.
If this really concerns you and you don't WANT to think about these fantasies, then refocus your thoughts: think of the look on your wife's face when she learns of your infidelity (assuming you took it to that level) or imagine what you would feel like finding out that your wife was unfaithful? Those images will turn off the fantasy pretty quickly, if that's what you want.
And for Christ's sake, don't get a divorce over this. Good Lord, we have all been here before and WE made it past it. Communicate, compromise, and always give more than you ask for.
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