SiN

nice post, abaya.

I too tend to believe that a bit of 'tasting' before settling is a good thing for many people (not all, of course, i suppose) .. I used to be in a relationship with someone much younger, whom i devirginized, and that was always a major concern of mine, that he would have that 'need' to 'diversify' at some point. totally normal, as far as i'm concerned.

and, continuing on your post .. I think for me, it did totally help - I slutted around for a few or more years, and I can honestly say it's 'out of my system'. sure, i would do it again, if the situation arose. but i don't need to.
not sure if this is perhaps a male/female difference tho.

also a valid question, abaya, about the OP's wife's experience ..

and of course, communication.

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