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Sultana, great thread. It has been so informative to hear people's responses. I especially liked the anonymous male's response; I have always thought about these situations in terms of "fairness," but I guess that is not what it really comes down to. "It is about being receptive to your partner's feelings and needs," the man said. I guess it is about what you can handle.
My only question is, particularly to Raeanna... about your brother's relationship. You said he has thought about swinging, but that you feel their relationship is not strong enough to handle it. I wonder, for swingers, do you see yourselves as having a kind of super-relationship (in terms of degree) while others have weaker relationships; or is it more a matter of a different *kind* of relationship than what others have?
I guess I dislike the idea of some relationships being stronger than others, when really isn't it more about preferences and what individuals can/can't handle? To me that is not an issue of strength.. but I can't think of the right word. Openness? Curiousity?
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And think not you can direct the course of Love;
for Love, if it finds you worthy, directs your course.
--Khalil Gibran
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