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Cimarron29414 · 12-19-2005, 08:12 AM

I would have a discussion with Boris and let him know (in more detail) the changes Sissy has gone through - especially the ones that have occurred in the past few months. If you take the time to tell him about this, it will help him prepare BEFORE he gets there. Hence, I think he will be able to enjoy the small amount of time he is going to be there rather than spending most of it "adjusting". Does that make sense?

As for your parents, there's a lot of water under that bridge and we have only heard one side of the story. While I tend to feel that they have unfairly ostracized you from your siblings, again I don't know the whole story.

What I do know is that a moment spent angry or revelling in the pain of others is a moment of personal joy lost forever. You can choose how to spend your moments - I would choose to spend the joyful. If your parents were really bad to you growing up and you left them because of it, then you chose to get away from the pain/anger/unhappiness. To feel pleasure because you are stealing Christmas from them is actually nothing more than allowing them to continue to rob you of true happiness. Your focus should be on ensuring your loved ones and you have a really merry Christmas. Time will determine in which environment your siblings choose to spend their precious holidays. Don't worry about catching fish, focus on becoming the right bait.

12-19-2005, 08:12 AM	#9 (permalink)
Cimarron29414 Still Free Location: comfortably perched at the top of the bell curve!	I would have a discussion with Boris and let him know (in more detail) the changes Sissy has gone through - especially the ones that have occurred in the past few months. If you take the time to tell him about this, it will help him prepare BEFORE he gets there. Hence, I think he will be able to enjoy the small amount of time he is going to be there rather than spending most of it "adjusting". Does that make sense? As for your parents, there's a lot of water under that bridge and we have only heard one side of the story. While I tend to feel that they have unfairly ostracized you from your siblings, again I don't know the whole story. What I do know is that a moment spent angry or revelling in the pain of others is a moment of personal joy lost forever. You can choose how to spend your moments - I would choose to spend the joyful. If your parents were really bad to you growing up and you left them because of it, then you chose to get away from the pain/anger/unhappiness. To feel pleasure because you are stealing Christmas from them is actually nothing more than allowing them to continue to rob you of true happiness. Your focus should be on ensuring your loved ones and you have a really merry Christmas. Time will determine in which environment your siblings choose to spend their precious holidays. Don't worry about catching fish, focus on becoming the right bait. __________________ Gives a man a halo, does mead. "Here lies The_Jazz: Killed by an ambitious, sparkly, pink butterfly." Last edited by Cimarron29414; 12-19-2005 at 01:58 PM..