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Old 12-18-2005, 09:24 PM   #4 (permalink)
cellophanedeity
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My love and I aren't quite swingers, but we are open to trying things.

So far we've had two people join us (on two different occasions) and no actual penetration happened. It was more along the lines of naked making out and playing and all of that.

Well, I guess I must have been in grade eleven when we first tried playing with another person. We first got into it because I just wanted to try being with a woman, and both Simon and I have always liked the idea of group sex. I've always been flirty with my other female friends, and it just happened that one of those flirtations led to more. Neither of us really quite enjoyed the experience, but it was because of the partner more than the idea.

The second time was kind of strange. I went to school with Simon once, and at the end of the day one of his friends just told us that she wanted us. So we set up a time and place and got together. We could tell that she was uncomfortable, and things just weren't going well so not much happened beyond making out. The second time we got together, it was similar except more nakedness. The third time, we came to the realization that she's not queer at all and just wants my boyfriend. Yet again, Simon and I didn't really enjoy the experience, but because of the partner not the idea.

As we didn't ever get very far, we didn't really worry too much about STDs. I mean, I asked the first girl about herpes and if she had been tested recently and all of that, and she promised she was clean (we were friends, I trusted her) just in case.

Hopefully in the near future, a very close friend of ours may be joining us. We've put a lot more thought into this, and both Simon and I are close with the guy.

The only real ground rules are that condoms must be used if any sort of penetration is going to occur, and that if at any point in time no matter what has been said or done, if someone feels even slightly uncomfortable we either return to a good comfort level, or we stop entirely.

Simon and I have a level of communication that would make any therapist proud. We know what the other is and is not comfortable with, and we completely understand eachother non-verbally.

I guess another good bit about it is that I really want him to make himself as happy as possible. If he finds someone he thinks he'd be happier with, then I don't want to hold him back. That, and I know he loves me more than any other woman. *laughs*

so I guess that basically answers the question.
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