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Originally Posted by Seeker
You're very right when you say that there is an expectation to be faithful, but what happens if they can't or won't and both parties don't catch it to address it... you are only left with the aftermath... then what do you do... and in most cases it's "kick to the curb" and "you've done it once you'll do it again" ... why is there no room for discussion afterward?
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There is room for discussion afterwards...
Cheating isn't really cut and dried... which I think you acknowledge.. there are different levels of cheating -for lack of a better term-- There's the person who's a serial cheater -that's staying with the wife "for the sake of the kids" or it's just too expensive to get divorced... I'm sorry -that person deserves to be taken to the cleaners... There's the person who picks up a boyfriend on the side because her husband was busy trying to build a life for them -- she didn't get the attention she got when they were dating -- so she had a boyfriend... Idon't have much sympathy for her either-- she should have opened her mouth rather than compound the problem... Then there's the accidental cheater... which I still have some issues with - but it's the person who has a moment of weakness... and for lack of a better term - made a mistake... They've seen the hurt they caused and they wouldn't do it again... that person should be forgiven and get on with the life.. the other two -- nope - I'm not that nice a person..