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First I'd like to say thanks for your responses and giving me a chance to have this discussion. I would also like to point out that in giving any opposing statements in regard to your responses, I am not saying that you are wrong in your reasoning or responses.
The issue of cheating to me, is an extremely 'grey' area and I don't believe that every instance is as black and white, or as simple as people think. Cheating is related to relationships - two people coming together, each with different upbringings, experiences and personalities. That in itself is a massive concept for me even before you bring in the more common difficulties, such as beliefs, ideals, and heritage.
Mantus, somewhere in my opening statement I have given you the impression that I think cheating is like a disease. Perhaps this was an error on my part, I have stated that I don't think it's justified, I think of it more as 'faulty logic', and faulty logic somewhere along the line it needs to be brought to light and adjusted. Unfortunately, the only time this faulty logic is brought to light is in the situation, the relationship. This is where I say it's an opportunity to work through it, kicking the cheater to the curb will not help where faulty logic is concerned, actually it may reinforce it.
Ustwo, I don't believe everything we do has to have a selfish flavour, I think if we can take a step away from ourselves for just a few minutes we have the opportunity to see a bigger picture. Sometimes that bigger picture will show you that you're an idiot and need to remove yourself from a situation, but just sometimes you'll see a bigger picture that can be worked through and you'll see it as an opportunity to give fully of yourself to another, and that to me is the point of relationships. It's a two way street, not just what you get from it but what you also put in.
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