Tilted Forum Project Discussion Community - View Single Post

Mantus · 12-13-2005, 08:59 PM

Hay Seeker, (edit, sorry Seather, the names are close :P)

Cheating is not a disease. It's bad judgement.
It's also a breach of social contract - a subjective concept.
So think of it however you like.

I don't think feelings sorry for a cheater is any healthier then raging out on them.

As for giving them a second chance. Depends on the time invested and level of the affair. If a person is in a five year relationship and their partner gets shitfaced and fucks someone, well that happens. It's a sign of trouble but can be dealth with. On the other hand if their partner has an month long-mouth full affair; that's a good sign that your relationship is just an empty shell.

I know you are probably looking for a more thought out response as you put allot of thought into what you posted. It's complicated though and if there is infidelity involved the relationship is in serious trouble. So the standard responce of "...cheated on you, dump thier ass" is justified by the law of averages. Not everyone can climb out of such a ditch.

On top of that, I worry about denial on the victim's part. Do people know how to people know how to re-start a relationship after such an event? Forgiveness is easy; patching it up aint. If someone has an affair they are showing disrespect for their partner. How do get up from such a blow? If there is no repsect how can anything else happen?

Thoughts.

12-13-2005, 08:59 PM	#3 (permalink)
Mantus lascivious	Hay Seeker, (edit, sorry Seather, the names are close :P) Cheating is not a disease. It's bad judgement. It's also a breach of social contract - a subjective concept. So think of it however you like. I don't think feelings sorry for a cheater is any healthier then raging out on them. As for giving them a second chance. Depends on the time invested and level of the affair. If a person is in a five year relationship and their partner gets shitfaced and fucks someone, well that happens. It's a sign of trouble but can be dealth with. On the other hand if their partner has an month long-mouth full affair; that's a good sign that your relationship is just an empty shell. I know you are probably looking for a more thought out response as you put allot of thought into what you posted. It's complicated though and if there is infidelity involved the relationship is in serious trouble. So the standard responce of "...cheated on you, dump thier ass" is justified by the law of averages. Not everyone can climb out of such a ditch. On top of that, I worry about denial on the victim's part. Do people know how to people know how to re-start a relationship after such an event? Forgiveness is easy; patching it up aint. If someone has an affair they are showing disrespect for their partner. How do get up from such a blow? If there is no repsect how can anything else happen? Thoughts. Last edited by Mantus; 12-13-2005 at 09:10 PM..