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Cimarron29414 · 12-08-2005, 02:55 PM

Tira_Lee

First of all, if you take out a loan for your wedding I will kick you in the butt!!! There is no due date for a wedding. You are going to spend your whole life together, what is the hurry to acquire a label? If you can save $200/month and your budget is $2000, then set a date for 11 months from now.

The fact is, a wedding is the single biggest waste of money you will ever have in your life. Shani, I know you are going to disagree with me on that one, but hear me out. The amount you will remember of that day compared to the amount you spend is tremendously disproportionate. You will get the video back and go "Oh yeah, that DID happen. I forgot about that...." Shani is ENTIRELY correct about the alcohol - it is the biggest waste of money at a wedding. You are paying for all of your friends to have a good time - you will primarily be pulled from one event to another...pictures...now entrance...now first dance...now toast....now cake....now garter....now change for exit...now exit. It is a giant blur. If you want to make an investment in your future: elope and save the money for a house downpayment.

The ingredients for a good wedding day are this: two people that love each other, two well-intentioned vows, and a healthy dose of well-wishing from loved ones. It requires nothing else! It was a good wedding, if and ONLY if, there is one more happy married couple at the end of it. I tried to bribe my wife to elope with a 2 week honeymoon in Greece. Her reply, "I'm HAVING a wedding." So, we had our wedding for around $4000 and went to Florida for the honeymoon. On Wednesday of the honeymoon, wifey turns to me and says, "Cim, I should have taken you up on Greece."

Secondly, you need to figure out what your mother's objections are because I have learned that they have a knack for being RIGHT! If you are unwilling to listen to her, and that is a completely valid feeling, you could cut costs on the wedding by eliminating guests, starting with her. The argument here is that, on your wedding day, you should surround yourself with people who will be supportive of your marriage. If your mother is not going to be supportive, she will bring the occasion down and that is no way to start the rest of your life.

Don't take out a loan.

12-08-2005, 02:55 PM	#16 (permalink)
Cimarron29414 Still Free Location: comfortably perched at the top of the bell curve!	Tira_Lee First of all, if you take out a loan for your wedding I will kick you in the butt!!! There is no due date for a wedding. You are going to spend your whole life together, what is the hurry to acquire a label? If you can save $200/month and your budget is $2000, then set a date for 11 months from now. The fact is, a wedding is the single biggest waste of money you will ever have in your life. Shani, I know you are going to disagree with me on that one, but hear me out. The amount you will remember of that day compared to the amount you spend is tremendously disproportionate. You will get the video back and go "Oh yeah, that DID happen. I forgot about that...." Shani is ENTIRELY correct about the alcohol - it is the biggest waste of money at a wedding. You are paying for all of your friends to have a good time - you will primarily be pulled from one event to another...pictures...now entrance...now first dance...now toast....now cake....now garter....now change for exit...now exit. It is a giant blur. If you want to make an investment in your future: elope and save the money for a house downpayment. The ingredients for a good wedding day are this: two people that love each other, two well-intentioned vows, and a healthy dose of well-wishing from loved ones. It requires nothing else! It was a good wedding, if and ONLY if, there is one more happy married couple at the end of it. I tried to bribe my wife to elope with a 2 week honeymoon in Greece. Her reply, "I'm HAVING a wedding." So, we had our wedding for around $4000 and went to Florida for the honeymoon. On Wednesday of the honeymoon, wifey turns to me and says, "Cim, I should have taken you up on Greece." Secondly, you need to figure out what your mother's objections are because I have learned that they have a knack for being RIGHT! If you are unwilling to listen to her, and that is a completely valid feeling, you could cut costs on the wedding by eliminating guests, starting with her. The argument here is that, on your wedding day, you should surround yourself with people who will be supportive of your marriage. If your mother is not going to be supportive, she will bring the occasion down and that is no way to start the rest of your life. Don't take out a loan. __________________ Gives a man a halo, does mead. "Here lies The_Jazz: Killed by an ambitious, sparkly, pink butterfly." Last edited by Cimarron29414; 12-08-2005 at 03:00 PM..