Key,
If you are trying to find clues for self improvement in her hatemail - don't bother. People don't see straight when they are emotional.
Be cool about this situation. Don't fight back or anything like that. It only lowers your status among the other girls who'll get wind of it and they are the ones that count now
You own her NOTHING. She disrespected you, she will do it again. She clearly doesn't even respect herself because she wen't back to an abusive boyfriend. You are not the worlds lifeguard, you have your own future to wory about.
Sever all ties with this girl. I mean it.
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i mean, it's weird. i tell myself the same thing and know it's true .. but it doesn't seem to help much. cliche eh? what the mind knows and the heart feels are very different ..
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Those are habits and structures that you mind put in to support your reality.
You loved this girl. Love is a major idea for all of us. We can't just dismiss it. I won't ask you too. Instead, next time you are reminded of your feelings for this girl, examine them.
Remember the girl you fell in love with. Note all the things she DID that made you love her. Compare her to the girl you know now. Note that there is a chord connecting the past and the pressent. The feelings of the past are still superimposed onto the person in the pressent. Snap that chord in your mind and see only as her present self. Does this person still possess the qualities you love?
It's okay to love the past but it is important to see the present clearly. That's why you gota break all contact with her for atleast two months, if not forever.
Concerning your lack of using words. I totally agree with the way you see things. However, we should not impose our ideals onto others. If words are important to others then you should comunicate with them using thier medium. Otherwise you have get dissonance in the relationship.
I hope that helps a bit.
Cheers!