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Originally Posted by drainpipe
I think I'll wait for the goodbye kiss as Dragonknight said because I'd really be at a lost as to what I would do afterwards. It'll provide a good escape route..
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Good thinking. Keep it light. Go for a peck on the lips if you must, but I'd recommend a peck on the cheek. Way less intimidating for her, and not a bad place to start.
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Originally Posted by drainpipe
I am very bad at being forward with girls so I never talk about sex and relationship stuff with them.
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This is a
very bad habit to be in. If over time this turns into a relationship, make sure you work on talking about these things. Take a look at this thread:
http://www.tfproject.org/tfp/showthread.php?t=94862
Even if you're not sexually active, it is an excellent thread regarding communication. Keep an eye out for beejay's comment about divorce.
Remember: communication isn't about being forward. It's about understanding one another.
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Originally Posted by drainpipe
I'm a virgin so I'm not that willing to dive right into sex. At least not until I'm comfortable enough. Amy's also a little shy so I'm not sure how willing she would be, either.
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Congrats on making it to college and still being a virgin! It's admirable. Hey, jumping into sex is not for everyone. In fact, it's healthier if you don't even think about sex for a while. It tends to muck things up. Somehow I got the impression that you wanted some, I apologise for the misunderstanding. Definitely don't make things uncomfortable for yourself or for her by suggesting you're interested. Still, as you begin kissing it is very important to know where one another stand on sex, so you don't accidentally push one another past the comfort zone. If she's shy, it may be difficult for her to say "no", even to something as basic as a good solid kiss on the lips.
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Originally Posted by drainpipe
I am definitely attracted to Amy. I also realize that, because I'm rather shy and very inexperienced, I have a tendency to idealize girls, so I'm actively trying to not do that.
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Yah! Keep it up. Get to know her for herself. Find activities to do together that would allow her (and you) to open up and show yourselves. Plant a tree, plan a party together... whatever you enjoy. You want to get past the shyness so you're comfrotable. Good, solid friendship seems to be the direction you're headed. And maybe a few kisses in there on the side? Whatever... just remember, idealizing her isn't going to help you get to know and love her for her.
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Originally Posted by drainpipe
More relevant information I should have included in the first post: I had a big lack of self-esteem in high school so I have never had a girlfriend. I'm largely over it, but it definitely still affects me in ways today.
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awwwwww a true shy guy. Of course it still affects you. Just keep working through it. You have us here to cheer you on.