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I've been in a similar situation. My old boyfriend had a "internet friend" who he would talk with several hours a day (especially in the evening when I was in bed). He swore up and down nothing was going on. But at the same time, whenever I came up on him while he was talking to her, he would shut down the window. This of course got me wondering. I'm not proud of what I did next. I broke into his computer and looked at their chatlogs and his email. Let's just say I was right to worry. I don't think the jealousy your feeling is a problem. It's a warning. To be repetitive, you need to really sit down and talk with him. Make sure he understands not only your feelings, but the reason behind them. If he doesn't listen, or is unwilling to compromise, walk away. The fact that he told you all about her in glowing terms and does not seem that determined to bring you together to meet, that he stayed over at her house on a day you were feeling unsecure, and that he made sure you knew that he always wanted to have a relationship with her are not good. It sounds like he's confused about what he wants. It's not your responsibility to help him figure that out. Do you want kids, marriage? How long are you willing to wait? With a guy like this, you might be waiting a very long time if ever. Especially if he's going to run crying to her and her all too open arms anytime you have problems.
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